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Unity with Community

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Diversion is breakable where unity is most favorable.

The world as we know it was not built alone. Our communities were not singularly formed either. Our lives that we have created continue to grow through our relationships, our resources, and connectivity. Our circle comes back to the community in which we ultimately immerse ourselves. When you look at all that is around you, far and wide, it is the beautiful diversity that we grow open handedly rather remain idle separately.

Where we all individually differ in many aspects of our being, our common grievances surround the continuous diversion that we face. Where many find their immediate action to march in madness, we instead should cross the bridge in a harmonious unity. Your inner being is just as important as the outer. All levels should be protected. Sadness and anger are normal emotional responses when we do not feel protected. However, hatred and acts of this, and with the intent to harm others, is not. It may take one person to break peace in a community, but it takes a community to also help one another. When peace is broken, we must not follow the effect, but go back to the state of cause and do what we can at that point to move towards a more positive outcome. Uplift one another, love, listen, and remind one another why what brought us together in the first place.

In my community, I never knew a stranger. I never felt disconnected from the rest of the world either, as I was always surrounded by many different faces, language, and the beauty that each possessed and selflessly shared. The experiences and stories I have learned and the greatest bonds ever achieved. I never perceived differently, nor heard a voice I found unfamiliar. Although not one person I know looks like me, was raised like me, spoke like me, or has ever walked like me, though we walk together with open hands to uplift one another in case we come across a bump in the trail. Guiding one another in case one may get lost. Laughing and smiling while you make life long memories and relationships. Having a heart that is full because you have joy and love that surrounds you. Love is abstract, and our judgements perhapss should be much more as well.

If I put everyone I know in a room, I will see and hear a multitude of difference, but we all share the same smile and open heart. We each learn from eachother on a broader perspective. I have learned and experienced more out of my lifetime than I could ever afford to travel alone to do otherwise. Love and understand what community truly is. On a simple level it is a population of various individuals whom live in a common place within a large society. A fellowship as a result of sharing interests, and goals. On a intrapersonal level, community goes beyond in making others feel welcome, feeling safe, and caring for others where possible. Reaching out to others not only helps them and your community, but it helps you to gain a bigger understanding as well. We were not born into this world so with the purpose to harm, but we are here to rejoice and grow to live in a way of our found purpose, most importantly helping each other reach that. We each hold individual tools. Some where we lack but can provide to others where they too are able to reciprocate. Our life is given for opportunity to take away from ourselves or any one else. Knowledge is key. We cannot have it all, but we can selflessly share with one another for the best of intention and the betterment to all.

Just remember when you have been at your best and have been at the lowest, it is not about one culture, race,religion, or gender that makes a difference in your aid. I know I can speak for myself that it is an international love that has been by my side as well as my family. An individuals character speaks and gives much more volume than the outer label others may have placed. Embrace and cultivate the differences as a progressive tool to unite in growth, wellness, education, and a greater strength. Through unity we all stand together and none fall short. Hatred is never the norm and Love should be available by the masses, not a commodity. Aren’t we all tired of the earthquakes in our communities? Pain and suffering shouldn’t be a chosen way to feel or project upon others. We do not gain but ultimately lose everything from this. Otherwise it is a complete waste of our precious life, our world that is one of a kind in itself. Uplift yourself while doing the same with and for others for much more of the fulfilled life we all desire.

Unity with Community, it’s that simple.

 

-Amanda Marie Wilkinson

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Go in Educated and come out Strong- Voting with a purpose!

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Happy Friday Everyone! Whew after a long and busy week, It is finally here! I hope you have found yourself knowing that you have done wondrous things thus far. No matter any pitfalls or cracks that you have stepped in on the ground, at the end of the day, you know you have made a difference at the least.

As a parent, I pat myself on the back for getting my kid to school before the bell. After a long day running like a wild chicken, I am there to help make a school project while I am nodding off every so seldom at the kitchen table. However, on days like today, not only do I make life work, I manage to end it with a beautiful sense of strength, purpose, unity, and a smile. Today, I managed to vote early, rather than in the brink of the process.

One of the greatest advantages of doing so, is that you have more opportunity before to meet with those candidates and understand who they are but most importantly how they understand you! After all, these candidates are there with a purpose to serve perhaps based on their personal experiences. Either way, they go in with a mission, but your presence and voice is more powerful when heard. Your voice is the fuel that keeps their engines running and the ability to keep working. You are a direct connection and resource to them, just as much as they are to you. Your voice is much more amplified when these candidates are able to accurately and securely get down to the source of their mission, ultimately their elected jobs. Their jobs are given by voters, YOU!

I am going to be honest with you, majority of time, I do not have the time to watch television. Therefore, it is not my influence with any decision I make. As for social media, I skip directly over those posts when it comes to public opinion to agree or disagree with one another, especially when it comes to their chosen political party. I do not count on the masses to give me opinion, but I count on myself to seek resources and when the opportunity gives, go to the direct source to educate myself and determine where my personal vote will better serve my mission, purpose, future, and my family. I could never walk up to a stranger, or even my best friend and tell them who to vote for. AS long as they are voting with Education behind them and a fulfilled purpose, then I am just as happy for them as I am myself.  I am a strong advocator for myself as well as the general community in areas that I personally can relate and help through my experiences. Everyone has a different walk of life and so therefore their individual decisions will bring individual outcomes. Never lose sight in what you believe in and what brings you peace. Most importantly do not let anything misguide or shift your ability to stand straight for what is important for you.

Before the polls, take the time to research those who may be running for a specific office and reach out to them directly. Let them know that you are interested in knowing more about their platform for the educated intent of voting. These individuals are happy to take their time in meeting with you.Take this time to share with them your personal experiences and what is important to you. Just as it is important for them to receive your vote, it is a reciprocal benefit for them to also know and understand how they can stay relevant in support and involvement with individuals and families in their community. Ultimately, to better serve through their work. Your voice is just as big as the jobs that you support. Those jobs in return are there to support you, your family, and your community!

Election time should not be a time to defy one another, but a greater time to unite and connect with one another. Go in educated, with a purpose and come out stronger as a community. I am an individual who has much perspective on different views based on personal experience. Through these experiences, I have learned that I cannot pay, wait, or expect someone else to advocate for me, my future, or my family in a way that I could. However, I can research and educate myself based on resources that are publicly provided to best understand the process I need to take in order to successfully get to where I need to go.

Without education, your voice has no power. It is crucial to accurately know how you can better serve yourself. At the end of the day, it is obligatory right. Your voice is just as powerful as the job it gives. It is crucial to educate yourself and become well informed in your understanding on how YOUR rightful made choice impacts you and your family’s future. Do not dive into the masses for personally irrelevant made opinions,  because you are only creating the outcome that will go against you. Go directly to the source to get the answers you need to make the change that you want. Just like anything else in life, you can’t worry about anyone else if you can’t take care of yourself. Go educate yourself and get connected. How you are able to make a slight change for yourself, will ultimately make a larger change for community. Make your educated decision count!

#UnitywithCommunity

I wish everyone happy voting and a beautiful weekend!

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Lesser of the Masses- Letting go of the crowd

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The crowd is not that to be pleased, but stay focused on the audience that comes to support you.

People are quick to judge you at your worst and even at your best. I have lived walking on eggshells because of my fear of literal judgement and I still got fucked over many times over when you are doing everything to everyone else “right”. Define what is right in the first place. Behind every great person is a greater story.. or two. Our experiences is what drives us further to accomplishing gain where we want to make up for all that we have lost. Whether it was time, money, grief, . It is what gives us the fuel to drive. It is what brings us to higher levels of thinking and ultimately reaching heights we can’t explain otherwise. I have made a lifetime of sacrifice and was not unhappy and I would rather be happy so I continue to make greater sacrifices to reach that level. So when someone judges you for doing better, being a better version of you, living your best life the very best way you can with exactly what you have, there is no wrong in that and you should realize that once you start living your victory, you will have all that fulfills you. Otherwise you will remain searching to replace the fear that others have you suffering and sacrificing your life.

Forget the excuses that you have given yourself, but never forget the excuses that others have given to you. Remember the “That’s the most ridiculous idea I have ever heard”,. Remember the “You would never be good at that”. Remember “You will be nothing”. Remember “You will never be normal again”. Remember “You are a failure” Remember “ If it were not for me you would have nothing”- this one is important, why? Because When you look back at all that you walked away from to go do and be you, you can humbly smile, fuck it, laugh your ass off at the bloated sacks of shits that gave you enough stink to move forward. After all, what the hell do they know? Are they going to live your life for you? Well it may not be a bad idea to go on celebrity wife swap or here’s a new one, parent swaps! Wouldn’t that be something? Oh the many days I would have loved to apply. Many would not be able to handle my juggles, and many cannot handle yours either. As a parent, you lose work or miss an exam at school, one you couldn’t take because well you had to stay home with your child on the days she was sick, or better yet no child care at all. Having three nannies would have been great just so I could get through a day of work, exams, presentations, meetings, and…………… without a vomiting child on board. True story! Majority of time I had absolute no choice but to bring a vomiting or feverish child with me to work and school. Those who cannot relate have nothing else to say. So go ahead and let them judge you, who cares? You shouldn’t!

 

Finding your happiness is not the hardest challenge in life, it is maintaining a connection with all of whom may not see through your perspective, understand your truth, supporting all that brings you pure joy, or can undoubtedly support you in the hours of silence. It is through others fear, ignorance, narrow, or misunderstood minds that will leave you lonely, if you allow this to be your company. Those who walk and turn away have done you a favor. These areas of your life will open up and make room for your greatest gain. Just keep on going because you are your greatest resource and the most true of them all. At the end of the day, it is your life, you own it. Therefore, why restrict yourself to all that you are capable of doing. You were born with gifts. Some of the finest tools that differentiate yourself like no other. Life brings you experiences that help you shape and refine those skills. Many keep closed in a 4 dimension life called a box. Don’t allow others contain you and shield away from your potential. Go out every day and be Great!

Lesser of the masses is less of the pressure. Pressure to conform to others rather always performing at who you are 100 percent. You can’t be your best self if you are not living yourself and this means letting go of all that is not allowing you to do so. Not everyone will believe in who you are and there is nothing that will ever change that. Enjoy exploring and understanding who you are at a full tank and take yourself to all of the places you want to go. Those who support you will hop on board and help you create the best of times in this journey called life. If you tag along the negative, it doesn’t matter if you are in the most beautiful place in your life, you will not be able to enjoy it. Let go of the threats that have you in fear of being everyone else perfect, but live in the standards of yourself and you will attract those who live in the same as you! Along the way, having your greatest fans! Ride above the clouds and keep closer to the sun!

 

-Amanda Marie Wilkinson

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Life Savings Plan

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When it comes to the development and growth of our person and for the remainder of our life, we first analyze our needs and desires and create steps to getting there, one goal at a time. Sometimes we find it easier to say what we want rather than obtaining it. Life comes in, sacrifices are made, time allows, and all outsourced factors roll in and can often be out of our control. However, for those things that we can anticipate and manage, you can’t lose sight on the mark in which you are and let something or someone else stand in your way of that.

What is set in your mind, will always lead your way. Life has a great way of doing this for us, as long as you remain balanced and centered towards the very thing that you need and want. I have found myself slowly losing what I thought I wanted just because I had other focuses. This can be a good outcome if you perhaps are benefited from the very thing that may get wiped away from the path. However, it becomes a negative in your life if you are not really focused on one or a couple of goals, but are unbalanced and lost in any amount of chaos that results in nothing, and you losing everything around your wants and needs in the meantime. This is also very true if you are taking care of others before taking care of yourself.  I always have said: “Don’t give more or less than what you receive from others”. Not that you nor I expect anything in return from our support to others, however, when you are building up towards all that is lifting you, is the support reciprocated where it could be?

These are  I have learned a couple of times. It is easy to just want around feeling the need to work work work and harder for several passions all at the same time. Even as independent and motivated we are, it is still very difficult to sufficiently manage at a given time. Eventually you will start to seeing that those things may not even work out as planned or not at all. Leaving you with the WTF is happening right now. The answer is nothing! When it comes to spending your assets to giving to others: monetarily, mentally, emotionally, physically; where are those people after? Love and charity are a great thing when you give where you can. We can’t expect others to have the same desire to give back to you. Some will not if there is no benefit to them. Others will because they believe in you. Decipher the thing and the person who will bring light your well being and continue to support and shine together.

Life has its way of designating roles that are pertinent to your plan. Stick with what is given and you will see the same results that you first saw when you started. Life can provide our own savings plan that is uniquely stated by our needs and desires, though not one will be preferred by everyone. This is ok, as your individual plan is made by you and for your continuous growth. Never compromise your personal wealth for anyone or anything that is a risk to the build of your future. Life savings are made to grow, not deplete.

-Amanda Marie Wilkinson

 

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Live Your Best GOAL(S)

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Happy Monday! A brand new day, the start of a new week and another opportunity to hit your marks. Take the steps in which you set your own pace and Let all that you create and desire be the reflection of you rather than of others in the process.

It is really easy to get caught up in the rat race of life. Some of us are still trying to catch up with our family, our peers, perhaps comparing our paths to others and their walks of life. When you find yourself in this mindset, just remember that no ones path is paved the same. There is nothing to compare even if you wanted to evaluate a set of twins. Sometimes it is easy to fall in to the impatience of our wants, especially if there are people that depend on us, or simply that you fully depend on yourself.

I have fallen into this a couple of times. As a single woman, and again as a single mother. When I was in my early 20’s, I was really fascinated by those I knew who had a few points of success where I was still going to school. Young, purchasing their first home, going into their graduate program, or simply have already lived the social life and world discoveries that I have really yet to find. I definitely thought at certain moments that I was living my best life, only because I compared better times against the hardest of times. However, this was not living my best life. I was providing myself a void by trying to keep up with a time that really wasn’t mine. I had no choice but to take baby steps in life. I was discovering independently my available tools to navigate the roads that were unknown to me at that time. I had to build a report with myself in order to fully understand where it was I was desiring to go. I have always had wants and goals, but my roads ahead of me where bumpy, sometimes I had to stop and get gas, I was lost a few times and had to make a u-turn, or even stop and ask for help. These were all experiences that helped me sufficiently travel and gain the immunity each and every time towards something that was foreign or not preferred. There were times where my immune system felt attacked, taking steps of recovery, becoming stronger to fight and conquer. These steps may seem to slow down during these periods of times, but you have to trust that these times are meant for your journey. The bigger the goal (s) the longer and bumpier the roads and this is the way you are building strength and stamina to power glide over your mark when you have reached it.

If you wanted to sit and look at a checklist of all the things that could possibly make others look great on paper, go ahead.. All that you are doing is only turning into your own wrecking ball coming through and demolishing all that you have to continue going for yourself. Maybe your best friend is engaged, siblings are having their first children, colleague getting that promotion before you, all while you are still single, feeling that you are working twice as hard, or maybe you are not working enough. Perhaps you are that person who wants a career change, a life change. There is a process to that too. This takes time. Your time becomes available to you based on your individual needs and perhaps wants too.

I never really paid attention to the irrelevant differences of others because I had no choice but to keep tunnel vision and my eyes on the prize. My goals were specific, I wanted to complete a higher education, continue to pursue my passion for my talents, and truthfully speaking to myself, I wasn’t physically or mentally ready to join all of the things that built this societal hype and expectations. I became assure of myself in a way that I was only motivated to find resources rather than outlets. I was rested and comfortable in my walk. I not only understood myself a bit better along the way, but every step of the way was lead by the greater faith it took to accept the What, where, and whys of it all too. What you may think you lack are only windows of more time and opportunity given to reach your much larger and long term goals that will be the support to the smaller ones. Moments that you couldn’t have otherwise f your story was told different. There is not a depot to paint or decorate when the foundation is complete nor the support walls to uphold them. Much of these decorations that you first notice on the surface, especially of others, you do not know how strong the support beams are as they individually differ.

Have the confidence with knowing exactly how you taken your steps and what you can expect with your anticipated outcome. Don’t get ahead of yourself on final results when you don’t have the complete equation. Take your time to evaluate and solve for a best and accurate result. Do not stand to be shy next to your neighbor, but remain outgoing with all that you stand for and how your relevance makes your amazing story told. In the mean time, always unite with your community, utilize your resources, build a bridge with one another and walk together as you continue to build and move forward. A rock solid foundation is needed to last a lifetime, and it is the way you are able to live your best life. In order to get there, you have to first live your best goals. All else will follow! Take all else that you see to provide your walk with a scenic route. You still have so much more to go and your final view is the larger piece of art that was developed for even a more enjoyable presence. Happy travels and embrace your journey!

 

-Amanda Marie Wilkinson