The crowd is not that to be pleased, but stay focused on the audience that comes to support you.
People are quick to judge you at your worst and even at your best. I have lived walking on eggshells because of my fear of literal judgement and I still got fucked over many times over when you are doing everything to everyone else “right”. Define what is right in the first place. Behind every great person is a greater story.. or two. Our experiences is what drives us further to accomplishing gain where we want to make up for all that we have lost. Whether it was time, money, grief, . It is what gives us the fuel to drive. It is what brings us to higher levels of thinking and ultimately reaching heights we can’t explain otherwise. I have made a lifetime of sacrifice and was not unhappy and I would rather be happy so I continue to make greater sacrifices to reach that level. So when someone judges you for doing better, being a better version of you, living your best life the very best way you can with exactly what you have, there is no wrong in that and you should realize that once you start living your victory, you will have all that fulfills you. Otherwise you will remain searching to replace the fear that others have you suffering and sacrificing your life.
Forget the excuses that you have given yourself, but never forget the excuses that others have given to you. Remember the “That’s the most ridiculous idea I have ever heard”,. Remember the “You would never be good at that”. Remember “You will be nothing”. Remember “You will never be normal again”. Remember “You are a failure” Remember “ If it were not for me you would have nothing”- this one is important, why? Because When you look back at all that you walked away from to go do and be you, you can humbly smile, fuck it, laugh your ass off at the bloated sacks of shits that gave you enough stink to move forward. After all, what the hell do they know? Are they going to live your life for you? Well it may not be a bad idea to go on celebrity wife swap or here’s a new one, parent swaps! Wouldn’t that be something? Oh the many days I would have loved to apply. Many would not be able to handle my juggles, and many cannot handle yours either. As a parent, you lose work or miss an exam at school, one you couldn’t take because well you had to stay home with your child on the days she was sick, or better yet no child care at all. Having three nannies would have been great just so I could get through a day of work, exams, presentations, meetings, and…………… without a vomiting child on board. True story! Majority of time I had absolute no choice but to bring a vomiting or feverish child with me to work and school. Those who cannot relate have nothing else to say. So go ahead and let them judge you, who cares? You shouldn’t!
Finding your happiness is not the hardest challenge in life, it is maintaining a connection with all of whom may not see through your perspective, understand your truth, supporting all that brings you pure joy, or can undoubtedly support you in the hours of silence. It is through others fear, ignorance, narrow, or misunderstood minds that will leave you lonely, if you allow this to be your company. Those who walk and turn away have done you a favor. These areas of your life will open up and make room for your greatest gain. Just keep on going because you are your greatest resource and the most true of them all. At the end of the day, it is your life, you own it. Therefore, why restrict yourself to all that you are capable of doing. You were born with gifts. Some of the finest tools that differentiate yourself like no other. Life brings you experiences that help you shape and refine those skills. Many keep closed in a 4 dimension life called a box. Don’t allow others contain you and shield away from your potential. Go out every day and be Great!
Lesser of the masses is less of the pressure. Pressure to conform to others rather always performing at who you are 100 percent. You can’t be your best self if you are not living yourself and this means letting go of all that is not allowing you to do so. Not everyone will believe in who you are and there is nothing that will ever change that. Enjoy exploring and understanding who you are at a full tank and take yourself to all of the places you want to go. Those who support you will hop on board and help you create the best of times in this journey called life. If you tag along the negative, it doesn’t matter if you are in the most beautiful place in your life, you will not be able to enjoy it. Let go of the threats that have you in fear of being everyone else perfect, but live in the standards of yourself and you will attract those who live in the same as you! Along the way, having your greatest fans! Ride above the clouds and keep closer to the sun!
-Amanda Marie Wilkinson
Unity With Community 